[Gpdd] [RAINBOW BRIDGE] Adrian

[DebJonSara at aol.com]

I know I don't send enough condolences when piggies go to the Bridge,  
although I always post obituaries for my own piggies when they go there, and  would 
be hurt if no one bothered to send condolences to me. I have to admit, I  
often skip the "Rainbow Bridge" posts because they always make me cry - I know,  I 
am a coward. They also remind me of the mortality of my own piggies, and that 
 I still have to endure this heartbreak another 17 times. So it is easier for 
me  to skip them, although for the grieving slave I know that is the most 
unkind  thing I could do. I also feel it unfair to send condolences for some 
piggies and  not for others - all are equal, all break their slaves' hearts, all 
slaves seek  the comfort of knowing others out here understand. But as I'd 
never find time to  send condolences for all, I tend not to send condolences for 
any by name - I  just tag general condolences on to the end of any posts I 
make. The lazy way  out, for which I apologise.
 
This said, I couldn't help identifying particularly with Kay's tragic post  
about Adrian. I think it reminded me so much of my most recently lost piggie,  
Red Dandy, who was also syringe fed for a long time and liked a snuggle on a  
shoulder afterwards. I think the process of syringe feeding strengthens the  
already powerful bond between piggie and slave, so that the pair become almost  
mutually dependent - I experienced this with Red Dandy's precious little 
sister,  Cherub, as well, the 3rd anniversary of whose death is almost upon us. 
 
Red Dandy also had dental problems, although the rodentologists who were  
with him when he died did point out to me that often the dental problems are  
indicative of a more serious underlying health problem. This underlying  problem 
discourages the piggie from eating hay, so the teeth are not ground down  by 
the hay and become overgrown, then the piggie can't eat, and it becomes a  
vicious circle. 
 
Anyway, Kay, I just want to express my condolences to you on your tragic  
loss. We can all tell from your obituary that he was a very special piggie, and  
you gave him the greatest gift of all by allowing him to slip away painlessly  
and by being with him until the very end. I never tell slaves that the pain 
wil  go away, because I honestly don't think it does. We have to believe that 
these  little creatures go on to something far better - we know that is nothing 
more  than they deserve - and I can't help believing that where the bond of 
love is so  very strong, we must get reunited with them at some future point. 
 
I do tag on condolences to everyone else currently suffering the pain of  
bereavement or of nursing a very sick piggie - my heart particularly goes out to  
Jaime and Albert. When I read these heart-wrenching tales, I can't help 
feeling  angry that there still doesn't seem to be enough effective veterinary 
knowledge  out there to help these little pals when they become ill. 
 
Hugs to all - even if I don't send my condolences every time, you must know  
that I feel for you, and I feel quite positive that there is a silent majority 
 of gpdd-ers out there who feel exactly the way I do, and share your loss 
with  you even though we do not take the time and trouble to express it.
 
I don't know if it would help, but somewhere in the archives is a funeral  
song I wrote for Red Dandy when he died - you might get a sliver of comfort by  
singing it to piggies leaving for the Bridge.
 
Debbie